I understand that my father is the one who plays the role of
devil’s advocate. However, whenever I say a new topic to him, he will frown at
the new venture and say all the negatives in that topic. When I was a child or
a college lad or even in professional world, I use to get afraid of my dad
points as they seem real points, and do not venture into the new ways. I failed
to understand that there are new ways exist in this world, beyond the negatives
that are inexplicable at the time of its genesis. There are 2 sides of the
coin. I wish there is a companion who shows both sides of the coin with facts
rather than pouring the outward of general advice on generic scenarios.
Hence, whenever your child comes up with a new idea that may
be totally irrelevant or totally new. First and foremost, listen to your child
very carefully and try to think in his shoes. By doing that, you would better
understand why your child is talking about it. It’s the only way to make your
child list to you, because once you get a vivid understanding of the background
in his thought process, you would better speak in his language either the
positives or even the negatives so that he can listen to you. Also, bear in
mind an important point that just because something has not worked successfully
for you does not mean that the same thing will not work out for him. The reason
being obvious, the result is influenced not only by the situation, but also by
the strong inclination, efforts made and the attitude towards the intermittent
downside that your son encounters in pursuing the ultimate dream.
